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Friday, January 16, 2015

A Real Man Doesn’t Make His Woman Jealous, But Others Jealous Of Her.....

This article was shared on my Facebook wall from Elite Daily (http://elitedaily.com/dating/real-man-doesnt-make-woman-jealous-others-jealous/903016/ and I absolutely agree with it. Please read the entire article before you speculate.....

It was written by Paul Hudson, an entrepreneur and writer for Elite Daily. Credit to Mr Hudson. As human we have a very low esteem and that cannot be denied. I hope by sharing this article with my readers able to guide them to a stronger and lasting relationship. 

Here how the article goes,....


Love isn’t love without jealousy. Although we most often consider jealousy a negative quality, it’s basically impossible to be in love without it.
Well, impossible to feel in love. While our jealousy isn’t always directed at our partners (and instead at whomever is trying to consort with them), it’s really the love of our lovers we’re afraid of losing. This fear reminds us how much we love our partner. This fear reminds us we need him or her in our lives.
This means we need to feel a bit of pain when we’re in a relationship in order to get that euphoric “in love” feeling we all spend our lives searching for.
We grow up believing pain must be avoided at all costs — especially when it comes to adult relationships. As I’m sure most of you’ve noticed, however, there isn’t a single relationship in the world that’s immune to all of love’s unpleasantries.
No relationship is ever “perfect” because no relationship would survive being perfect.
Pain cannot be avoided in loving relationships, as every part of them that reminds us how much we care is — to some degree — painful. What is it to love if not to long for someone? To need someone? To feel as if you’re missing something — missing a chunk of yourself when the two of you aren’t together?
This longing is literally the definition of romantic love — the most beautiful and sought after pain in all of human history.
You can’t avoid pain in a relationship — and you shouldn’t try to. People spend so much time trying to please each other and make each other happy that relationships often lose their flame and die.
Or, on the other end, there are incredibly frustrated people who, after months or years of tiptoeing around their partners, blow up in their faces, saying and doing things they later regret.
Of course, you shouldn’t try and seek out pain. Men often do the silliest of things: try and make their women jealous. There is no wrath like the wrath of a jealous woman — a little pain may be healthy, but you’re going to get a little more than just a little pain.
Relationships are already incredibly difficult. There will always be pain to be had, so there’s no need for you to make an effort to bring it about. Don’t get me wrong, a little jealousy goes a long way to maintaining a healthy relationship, but you shouldn’t have to try and make her jealous.
We’re told that relationships are supposed to be seamless, so at the first sign of friction, we freak out and contemplate ending them. I remember wondering whether or not relationships were “supposed to be this difficult” and whether or not I was “making a mistake and missing out on something greater.”
We’re sold on this fairytale that we’re to recognize love when we first encounter it and all the things that happen afterward are just the delightful pieces falling into place, eventually assembling into that happily ever after.
Relationships can’t be all joy and happiness all the time — nothing in life can be, indefinitely. Human beings don’t like only having good experiences. We need pain in order to understand how good the good times are.
Real men don’t make their women jealous. But, they, hopefully, feel a tad bit jealous every moment they aren’t together — it’s one of the most memorable and oddly enjoyable feelings in the world.
There’s nothing better for a relationship than a touch of uncalled for jealousy. You want to feel a bit jealous knowing other women want your man (and vice versa). You don’t, however, want to have a good reason to be jealous.
You see… Real men don’t need to make their women jealous because they’re already jealous by default. A woman knows how great her man is and, naturally, doesn’t want anyone else getting any filthy hands on him. He is hers, and she won’t have it any other way.
This is healthy jealousy — healthy jealousy that makes for healthy relationships.
And real men don’t go out of their way to make their women jealous. If you need to try and make her jealous, you’re not worth getting jealous over.
Or, also a very likely possibility, your woman just doesn’t know how great you really are and doesn’t appreciate you. Either way, something isn’t quite right.
The greatest male partners in the world make sure that every other single woman in the world is jealous of their woman.
A man’s job is to give all other women reason to be jealous of the woman he loves. If all other women are jealous and the woman you love is jealous, you, my friend, have got relationships figured out.
If it turns out that the woman you’re dating doesn’t appreciate having you around, there are plenty of other women already waiting to fall in love with you. It’s a win for everybody.
Except for your ex… but now you know you deserve better.

Not again....I forgot!

This article has been long overdue....and I hope I can finish it tonight.

It was the morning UPSR results was announced.  My other half left the house about 10 am and did not informed me where he went.

Shakira and myself headed to school. It was not until almost 11:30 am that the headmistress announce only 22 student received straight A's for 2014 UPSR. Unfortunately Shakira was not called up to the podium. She collected her results and I am happy that she scored 4A's and 1B. Its a good achievement. I am proud of Shakira. She did much better than what I'd scored in 1979. I couldn't asked for more.

When we returned home, I saw my other half waiting for us outside and I informed of Shakira's results. He was not happy because he was expecting a straight As. So Shakira kena 'bambu' dengan my other half. He seems so disappointed.

As we walked into the house I saw 2 bouquet of flowers sitting in a vase on the dining table. I read the cards and OMG,....one was for Shakira and the other was for me. It was an anniversary gift from my other half. Aww that was so sweet of him....thank you kutuk!

To Shakira for her UPSR results. 
To me as an anniversary gift.
I was surprised that he bought flowers for us. No wonder he went missing this morning.

About a week ago I was browsing my blog pages and was reading about our 15th anniversary and it triggered me.....did I missed again our wedding anniversary? As a matter of fact, yes, again.....7 days over due...hmmmm....what is wrong with me? When I told my other half, he said, yeah I thought about it and later I forgot!....Haish....

My wilted bouquet is still sitting on the long table in our living room. Shakiel always asked why am I still keeping it since it is dead....well Shakiel, I will keep it for as long as I can because it is not everyday that I get flowers from your dad!

We have our ups and down and HOPE things we learn along the way will mature the way we think. Be a good parent and be there for our kids through good and bad times. Be supportive and give us that positive energy you always talk about. We have been very supportive of you in these past years and do take it into your heart...that it was a real trying time. My request, if you will accept (macam Mission Impossible je...) is for you to be kind to ME......this message will self destruct in 5 seconds...4...3...2...1...BOOOOM!!!!

Happy very belated Anniversary! It was our 16th year and Insya Allah I pray for many more years to come.

Thursday, January 15, 2015

New Year Lunch

It was early in the afternoon and we did not know where to go for lunch. I wanted somewhere outside of Selangor where along the way we can enjoy the drive and the view....

I heard of Aunty Aini's Garden Cafe from my sister-in-law who saw a food program on the YouTube called Great Escape with Gordon Ramsey. The famous chef (n my favorite chef) visited Malaysia in 2013 and one of his stops was at Aunty Aini's. Ever since watching the program I've waited the opportunity to try out dishes prepared by Aunty Aini's Garden Cafe located in Nilai, Negeri Sembilan. So after searching the internet, I got their contact number and called. Great! They are opened on New Year. Finally, on New Year's we headed to Nilai.

This kampung style restaurant has also played host to another celebrity chefs, Anthony Bourdain. Should watch the episode....funny.

Credit to YouTube and Jacob Epstein

With my pilot navigating the car and the assistance of Waze, half an hour later we arrived at Aunty Aini's. First thing that came to my mind was, I should have made a reservation when I called earlier. There were many cars parked along the left side of the road...
Roadside signage.
As you enter the restaurant through the wooden gate,you are greeted with greeneries and small fountain or water feature. Very calming. I was thinking about the clitoral bush which was mentioned in the video but I was not going around to look for it....hahahaha..... The place was packed. Fortunately we managed to get a table right under the main hut... A few tables were put on reserved. After being seated we ordered lunch....

Masak Lemak Daging Salai
Sambal Tumis Petai dan Kupang
Sotong Masak Kunyit
Ulam2
Kailan Goreng Belacan

Dessert : Tapai Ice Cream
From top : Sambal tumis petai kupang, Kailan goreng belacan, ulam and Sotong goreng Kunyit.

Gulai Lemak Daging Salai. It was a bit salty to my liking. I am not sure if this is the original way of cooking daging salai since it was the second time I've ever tried this dish. I am still looking for the perfect daging salai....

Tapai Ice Cream. Yums...refreshing way to end our lunch.
It's an open space concept restaurant which means no air-conditioner. Too bad..and yes, that day was very hot. Half an hour later our food arrived and since we were hungry we immediately dig in....People come and go and in fact it was too packed that a few couples had to leave without getting a table.

Lunch and drinks came out to RM81.00. Hmmm....ok la tu....Yes, I was happy to get to dine there. Puas hati. Would I want to go there again? Sure...why not may be next time we will go for dinner. I want to meet Aunty Aini herself!

2015 Life is a story, make yours a best seller!

When I was in Primary 5, the most happening television program was Space 1999. Is it true in 1999 we will live in a spaceship? Wow how cool can that be....I want to know will Martin Landau fall for Maya. Never liked Doctor Helena.

And yet here we are in 2015, I am still waiting for my Battlestar Galactica....

Yea...yea...yeah...I know I am  2 weeks late but anyway, Happy New Year!!!
Credit to Google Images and funmozar.com
I pray for a better year and hope all of your wishes come true.

2014 has been a productive year for me. I gained so much satisfaction in my work. Opportunity after opportunity served on silver platter which I did not refuse. Alhamdulillah, things has worked out well.

Of course there were struggles along the way. But hey,...life is a story, make yours a best seller!

Looking forward to new challenges in 2015....